Mom would be proud.
Hi Mom!
“Hi-ee!! My name is Staci and this is my bestest . Her name is Stacy, too! Woooooo (fist pump)! We are sooo sexy! Every guy wants to take us home because they can see how sexy we are using this swing!”
Does class come with the purchase of a sex swing? Right. Men can’t wait to stuff you like it’s thanksgiving, then post the video of you vomiting on yourself on youtube. LOLZ (fist pump)!!!
I can’t imagine the amount of alcohol consumed to create this monumental display of sluttery. Wait, no. I bet these bitches were SOBER, trying to force feed “sexy” to gaggles of young bros eager to get a piece of co-ed vahjay. Because, for those of you who didn’t know, THIS depiction is what all real men want right? This is the shit that men want in the bed room. I should take a poll on this because out of all the years I spent being sexy, most of those times involve sweatpants and laughter, never a BeSt FriEndZ and a sex swing. Sexy doesn’t come from a pole or a rap video, and definitely not Hawaiian themed bar.
This is the problem with young girls: there is a distinct difference between sexually exploitative actions and empowerment. Lesbian actions in a sex swing IN A BAR, in not empowerment. It means you have a daddy complex and need the attention and justification from men to validate your existence as a female on this planet. Make your parents proud and at least try to graduate from college without putting incriminating photos of yourself on faCeb00k. Remember, future employers look at this. But, then again, some good ‘ol boy might actually put one of these up in the office for you, fuckin’ skank (fist pump)!
*Photo submitted by D.
Can I please just say that the one of the girls in this picture was getting married the next day and the other one was the Maid of Honor.
They are about 20 or 21 I think that they are idiots who need to learn what is wrong from right and how to present themselves as young mature individuals.
Being a person who is the same age of them I am absolutely appalled and disgusted when I found this on facebook. It makes me and other girls who are trying to be mature look bad.
So, while I generally think it’s a good thing that you’re out trying to get people to think I’d like to try and challenge your thinking as well.
Specifically, you might be unintentionally be expressing rather sexist comments. You resort to calling women who don’t fit your standards “sluts” and “bitches”. You’re entire post is basically slut-shaming where despite whatever intentions you have, you are attempting to otherwise discredit these women because of their perceived promiscuity.
Firstly, I don’t think that such actions are necessarily as evil as you would make them out to be. There’s clearly a double standard when a woman who likes sex/has many partners is referred to condescendingly as a ‘slut’ whereas a man of the same qualities is view desirably as a ‘pimp’ or ‘stud’. While you attempt to distinguish ‘good’ and ‘bad’ sexuality, you’re quick to shame and denigrate (‘daddy-issues’) those who don’t follow your standards (are too promiscuous).
Secondly you seem to again buy into the notion that a woman who is slutty can/should be defined by that. You mention (with what seems to be a bit of sadistic glee) that such pictures may hurt their future chances of employment. This is the issue right here, the view that, because these women were ‘too promiscuous’, they shouldn’t be allowed to advance in society. Only the good, docile, conservatively dressed, women should be given a chance to move up (but still behind men). Taken a step to the extreme, there are some percentages of people that believe that a woman acting in a slutty manner is at least partially responsible if she is raped. Admittedly, this is certainly a drastic scenario, but it stems from the same issue, that ‘sluts’ deserve poor treatment from society.
Finally, I feel that one of your main objections to their behavior is that it allows them to become objects. But I feel that you are incorrectly placing this burden of objectification on them, rather than those who would do so. I feel this is ‘a blame the victim’ mentality. It is the men who would objectify the women who are at fault, not them. That thinking is giving such men a free pass in this situation. By blaming the women, you’re basically saying “oh men can’t help but view them as lesbians for their own pleasure”, which just denigrates all parties. Instead it is up to the men to realize that these women are people, and not just there for their fantasies.
Apologies if things are vague or somewhat confusing. I’m still new in town to this game, so still have a lot to figure out myself.
Now…
let me begin….
First of all, the point of this blog is for me to write whatever I want about people who piss me off.
Secondly, if you act like an asshole, then you probably ARE and asshole. If you act like a slut, you probably are. If you drink bud lite, you are probably a bro. Stereo types exist because they are true. I am not even going to go into details about the double standards society has put forth and we, as a whole, have blindly followed.
Additionally, I bet you are one of those people who is say, overweight, and instead of take responsibility for yourself and stop eating a like a bovine waste, you blame the food industry and taco bell for your weight gain. How could it have happened? It is called responsibility. And you need to have some.
Just like women need to take responsibility to know the difference between being empowered and being a sexually charged whore. You want to have sex, great. who doesn’t?
Don’t post it on facebook because you are proud! Be proud of your college degree and your new puppy or hiking Mt. Everest and don’t reinforce the whoreish protoype that I have fought so hard to get away from. Men no longer are the pigs. It is us women who have become the pigs. Females are oppressing themselves.
Oh and p.s.
If whores sould have so much clout in society, then maybe California should have voted for Mary Carey for governor, instead of Arnold.
And, on the next election ballot, I am going to vote for a convicted criminal to be my president, becuase it wasn’t their fault! It was society’s! They deserve a chance, too.
Yes we can!
1. Sure this blog may be your venting ground, but the I take issue with the sentiments you express and since they’re public, I can call you out on them. If you really don’t want to hear things that disagree with you, just turn off comments or delete these, I won’t even take it personally.
2. Stereotypes aren’t always true. (Black men are out to rape white women, Mexicans are lazy, Women are naturally stupider than men) Even if they do have some backing in reality, that doesn’t excuse them .
3. Addressing your ad homeinem, yes I am slightly overweight (BMI of 27), but no I don’t really blame anyone else.
4. So why exactly is being whorish, as you put it, bad? What’s wrong with it? Are men who brag about how much sex they’ve had just as bad, in the same way?
As you put it, they like sex, horray, so what? It’s like saying I hate people who love to hike mountains/have a new pet/have a college degree. What’s so much more ‘real’ about owning a dog? Also I’m gonna take up some ad hominem here and accuse you of jealousy that they’re getting some and you aren’t, thus why you’re so worked up over them. Hmm, fun ain’t it.
5. How did the idea of blame society for everything come into this? I do believe in personal responsibility, but certainly society’s view of you will affect your chances of success. Not saying that it’s usually insurmountable, but you can’t expect to win often if the house has rigged the deck against you. Really I have the feeling you’d blame the little girls in Pakistan for not taking it upon themselves to get a good education.
These girls were fully aware of what they were doing when they decided to post this pictures on facebook.
#1 They decided that it would make their friends laugh.
#2 They thought that they looked pretty damn good.
No one forced them into doing it.
Most women are trying to make a name for themselves now but when you have girls especially young girls posting pictures like this it becomes harder to break the stereotype.
Also there is a little thing called freedom of speech so Ms. can post whatever she wants on her blog. In fact her blog is actually incite full because she takes the perspective of someone who actually cares about woman and young girls of today. So if you think that what she wrote is so offensive then consider this what if it was your daughter in that picture I am pretty sure that you would be ashamed and start questioning where you went wrong.
Regarding your points 1&2, what’s wrong with them? Is being funny or having self confidence suddenly wrong? I don’t see how they are relevant to this. I’ve not tried to paint them as ignorant of what they were doing, but rather that I don’t think that we should find it wrong for them to do so.
Stereotypes: again isn’t not the fault of the person being stereotyped, it’s the person thinking and acting on it. Firstly, what stereotypes are they buying into? Then what stereotypes are you buying into? The general atmosphere is that if a woman does something inappropriate (or immodest like, shall we say, showing her ankles?) that makes her a whore. I’m questioning both this attitude, and whether whore really should be an acceptable insult.
Daughters: Honestly, if all this theoretical daughter did was what is shown in the picture, I’d not really take issue with that. But hey maybe that just makes me a bad person in your eyes. Also lets turn the gender roles around, is it different if your son (or just some random man) did something similar?
1st Amendment rights: Yes she can totally say whatever she wants (barring things like hate speech or shouting fire in a theater). But by that token so can you and I both say (type really) our opinions as well.
Snarky comment: “incite full”, I think you meant insightful, though I do agree that the writing might incite people as well.
Caring: Just because someone cares about something doesn’t mean they’re doing good. Hyperbole: while terrorists ‘care’ about Islam, they’re not doing the cause any good. So while someone may care, and even have good intentions, it’s still entirely possible to be ‘doing it wrong’. I’m expressing why I feel this may be so in this case.
Clearly I have too much free time on my hands.
Considering the fact that I personally know Ms. I can say that she is insightful and caring. Very very petty to comment on a spelling error.
Also I know these girls personally and they get a thrill out of people calling them sluts and whores in fact they are proud of it. So sorry but your confidence card is not well played here.
Tell me how can it be considered confident to keep putting yourself in a stereotype. Yes I said they put themselves in that stereotype which happens to be enforced by other who come across this picture. They are putting themselves into the stereotype that most college students are drunks behave in a manner that can be deem reckless. Sorry if I am trying to break away from that. They are also fitting into the picture that movies paint of the two dumb popular girls who get drunk all the time.
So, spelling error, sure, petty, I just about admitted as much, though I picked up on it more for the unintentional pun than anything else.
The card isn’t so much about confidence, it only came in as an inference to your original point that they felt they looked good.
My main line of questioning is why are whore and sluts are seen as legitimate insults? And further, that by accepting them and buying into the ideas you are perpetuating the same sexist stereotypes that have been around since forever. Can you understand how this thinking is merely the modern day version of stoning women who don’t cover themselves in bhurkas when out in public?
Regardless of stereotypes what it comes down to is that the sole reason you have expressed dislike for these women is that they are promiscuous. You continually try to conflate the fact that the stereotype exists and the reason you dislike their actions. But ask, if the stereotype didn’t exist, would their actions then be acceptable?
Seriously, the point is this: women expect respect and desire power. Society (more specifically, mass media) has decided to portray risque, fetish, and anonymous sex as the ultimate and most respected form of power for a woman, making any man fall to his knees (and any other less-desireable woman for that matter) and beg for her adoration. These chicks are a product of the advertising industry.